How To Raise A Responsible Child
a book by Shirley Gould
(our site's book review)
She starts out by advocating abandoning of punishments, authoritarians, permissiveness, threats, spanking, hollering, orders, etc., and ends up recommending Gordon’s P.E.T. books. She’s a strong advocate of authoritative parenting with logical and natural consequences central to the methodology. She guides the reader to help parents learn to parent democratically, with kids getting to participate in family decisions. She wants kids to be able to learn to be at cause, not at effect of parental interference. Kids should be able to find out for themselves—make their own decisions. Parents should be good examples to emulate. She wants kids to be able to have their feelings, not get forced to repress them by fears and anger on the part of others. Kids should be allowed to solve their own conflicts with one another—and parents should stay out of it, except for safety’s sake. She explains conflict resolution and family meetings as a setting for it. More than anything else, she wants parents to succeed at raising responsible kids.